Advice From My Dear Friend

Oh Andrea dear. He seems like such a neat guy. Know that I am praying for the two of you - and for your heart especially. The beginning of a relationship is such a sweet, exciting, fun, and scary thing! 

I know I've said this, but my reoccurring advice is this: start slow. Slower than you think, at least. Don't be the least bit deceptive/withholding of important things, just let him lead. If his heart is in the right place, we won't be able to help himself; he'll be dying to move forward. But let it be in his time. In the midst of this beginning, it may feel scary that you don't have things "defined" but guys often need more time (and feel the weight of the pacing of the relationship). You will know soon enough if he's the type who is out for just another chum - and he doesn't seem to be. In the mean time, play a little hard to get. I'm serious. I know, that's not the most obvious advice from someone who has been married for almost eight years (yikes!). But resist the urge to tell all really fast. If he's the guy for you, you will have plenty of time to get to know every detail of one another (the rest of your lives!). 

Okay, now I'm sounding really preachy ;). You know what I mean, right?! I love you and I am praying for you my dear!

~aims